Are you ready to consistently set a good
example? Can you be engaging,
good-humored, tactful, available, considerate,
courteous, honest, reliable, and understanding, every day, all day?
effective leader is a task not everyone can do. At least not without guidance
from mentors, experience, desire to think of others first, and the will to
absorb his or her staff’s positive and negative traits. Are you leadership
disorder”, please seek medical assistance. You may not be leadership material
you give in to your moods.
your mood creates doubt in your abilities and mistrust among your coworkers.
your moods suggest that your decisions will be biased.
2. Emotional breakdowns are the norm: Again, if you have a personal matter
that is ongoing and continuously affects your ability to do your work, please
seek assistance. You may not be leadership material if:
- you are not “available” to others.
- you show indifference or get out of doing your duties because you just “can’t handle it” right now.
- you create doubt as to your ability to cope with situations, opportunities, and challenges.
3. Personal woes are apparent to all: This is relative. For some, a personal
woe is not being able to buy the car of their dreams; having to settle for only
a semi-luxury car instead. For others, a personal woe is losing their home,
forcing them to move in with their parents. It really comes down to how you
handle the woe. You may not be leadership material if:
- you send out daily email blasts and constant posts on social media about your woe.
- you share your woe with everyone that walks by your cubicle or enters the lunchroom.
- you interrupt others only to show that your woe is worse than their woe.
4. Allows unnecessary interruptions:
A day can be filled with interruptions. Are you able to control them
and/or set boundaries? You may not be leadership material if:
- you answer the phone or constantly glance away from whomever you are speaking with to check your flashing cell phone.
- your dog distracts and interrupt you.
- you disengage to yell out your lunch order as your coworker walks by?
5. Does not follow-through: Forgetting to reply to an email has
happened to everyone. It’s how you remedy it that matters? You may not be
leadership material if:
- you make commitments and forget to show up or decide it’s not important to you.
- you promise to gather information by the end of the day, and never do it.
- you receive the information you requested and forget to acknowledge it.
6. Bad manners: People remember the seemingly
insignificant words and small gestures. Words
can change the entire delivery of a request or statement.
- Do you use “please” when you ask for a favor, information, or make any request?
- Do you say “thank you” after your favor or request has been satisfied?
- Do you race to be first in line at the lunchroom buffet?
- Do you arrive early to pick out the best donuts, but are the first to leave?
- Do you openly point out your coworkers’ mistakes?
- Do you gossip?
- Do you avoid doing anything that isn’t in your job description? And if you do an extra task, you make sure everyone knows about it?
7. Same rules don’t apply to everyone: Being in a position of authority
requires a professional attitude and a consistent manner when handling problems
and people. You may not be leadership material if:
- you overlook or ignore the rules with only particular staff members.
- you don’t follow the same rules that you are imposing on others.
- you blame others to avoid taking full responsibility.
- you lie, omit, or exaggerate.
- you walk around with an air of arrogance, just because you are in a position of authority.
WWALD? (What would a leader do if he/she is
experiencing a crisis or personal woe?)
- A leader would alert his/her immediate supervisor and the HR department; deciding not to burden his/her colleagues.
- A leader would consider taking a few days off to handle the woe.
- A leader would suck it up, put on a happy face, and exude a positive attitude.
- A leader would gather their colleagues to fill them in; not necessarily sharing details, but enough to ease their mind.
- A leader would privately seek assistance to help him/her resolve or manage their crisis or personal woe.
“If your actions inspire others to dream
more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader.” –John Quincy
About the author:
Rosalinda Randall, author of “Don’t Burp in the Boardroom” is a modern-day expert on tact and civility, using etiquette as a foundation. She has been spreading civility for more than 14 years. By lending personality and humor to an age-old topic, Rosalinda’s tactfully, straight-forward manner provides her audience with modern social and business practices.